Relentless Commentariat

I just got back from Dayglow. Obviously a large part of the experience was sexual in a corporate sense, but what dismayed me was the incredibly sexist (and heteronormative too but that’s perhaps less horrifying) imagery that permeated it. Not only did the screens show images that were primarily large-breasted, anorexically thin women, but a large proportion of the women who were part of Dayglow also wore practically nothing despite the 10 degree Celsius temperatures in Chicago.
What was most disturbing to me though was the one point when the screens showed a cartoonish make-out scene between two women.
I do of course agree that romantic and sexual relationships between women can be beautiful and loving in the same way that relationships between men and women, men and men, and multiples in any combination can be, but this was not a depiction of a relationship. It was exhibitionism, designed to appeal to the sexual approval and pleasure of the culturally constructed heterosexual male. The cartoon scene and the (apparently a direct quote from those on stage) “monkey see, monkey do” that followed were not expressions of love or sexual desire but a show put on for the men of the audience.
All this amounts to the deliberate objectification of women and the commodification of female sexuality. I’m not a woman, and I’m not a heterosexual male. Others can talk about objectification, and I’m not an expert on the subject, but I do have to say: Culturally treating sex as an item given or sold is abhorrent to me.
It is the view that sex is something women give men that leads to memes like those I described at Dayglow. All of the videos, the wantonly exposed flesh, are advertising, offshoots of treating sex as a commodity. I worry that we as a society, despite being several decades past the sexual revolution, have lost the fact that sex is something shared between two people, not given by one to the other. It is a physical and emotional unification, not a service rendered to men.
I worry that our culture is not making progress toward a healthy and equal sexuality.
If anyone has thoughts on this, please discuss?